Wednesday, November 2, 2016

Trusting

I realize that this is a bit long, but it comes from my heart and I am praying that you will read all the way to the end.

From the moment I met my late husband, I knew I could trust him. It showed in his words and his actions; and every day it was verified by his behavior. He never broke a promise and he never promised things that weren’t in his abilities to do. He never, ever, revealed secrets—not to me, not to anyone. Never once did he say, “I shared your secret because it was the right thing to do.” Mac was the perfect example of “keeping his own counsel.”

As a couple we knew we could trust each other completely; even better as Christians, we both knew that we could totally trust God. 

And those who know Your name will put their trust in You;
For You, Lord, have not forsaken those who seek You.
—Psalm 9:10 (NKJV)

Being able to trust God allowed us to face Mac’s illness and his death. Being able to trust God allows me to face each day without my beloved Mac. But the one thing I’m hesitant to do is trust other people.

I think this is true for many, if not all, widows. Trusting another person requires you to open your heart up to them, and that’s not easy when your heart has been broken into pieces and has yet to mend. Trusting others make you very vulnerable in so many ways: emotionally, perhaps physically, even financially. 

Yet it is part of healing to reach out and trust others, but when that trust is betrayed it hurts. Often the simplest betrayal of a confidence is a very deep hurt to a person that is already hurting; and the smallest, chiding comment digs deep into a broken heart.

Over the past two years I’ve been hurt several times, and every time causes me to pull back and withdraw. Because I’m not truly a confrontational person (unless you really, really push me), I don’t say to someone that their betrayal of a confidence, or their scolding comment hurt. Instead I spend time working through my pain and hurt privately until I feel I can reach out and trust anyone again. 

Sometimes I have a very hard time learning to trust that particular person again—to trust, really trust, a person who has hurt you is difficult. I think this is true for all of us, but more so when your heart is fragile.

Because in my own heart, I can’t forgive and trust as I should, I have learned to take these hurts and lay them at Jesus’ feet. He, and He alone, is able to heal my heart. He is able to give me the grace and strength to reach out and trust others again. After all, He has never broken a promise to me, He is always with me, He is my comfort, strength, and joy, and I can go forward unafraid of what others can do to me.

The Lord is on my side;
I will not fear.
What can man do to me?
Psalm 118:6 (NKJV)

I hope that you have placed your trust in the saving blood of Christ and have called on Him as your Savior. If you haven’t, you are missing out on a wonderful joy. Call on Him today.

Romans 6:23 (NKJV)
For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 5:8 (NKJV)
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Romans 10:9 (NKJV)
that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.

Romans 10:13 (NKJV)
For “whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

As a Christian, my desire is to be a trustworthy Christian. Daily I have to ask God to help me control my thoughts and actions so that I am “keeping my own counsel.” Some days I do okay at this, somedays I fail completely. My prayer is that you, dear reader, are a trustworthy Christian, so that you are able to reach out to those who are hurting and in need of your love and encouragement.

Some verses I read when I’m dealing with a trust issue. Dig into the Bible and you’ll find lots more.

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
—Joshua 1:9 (NKJV)

And those who know Your name will put their trust in You;
For You, Lord, have not forsaken those who seek You.
—Psalm 9:10 (NKJV)

But I have trusted in Your mercy;
My heart shall rejoice in Your salvation.
—Psalm 13:5 (NKJV)

Whenever I am afraid,
I will trust in You.
In God (I will praise His word),
In God I have put my trust;
I will not fear.
What can flesh do to me?
—Psalm 56:3, 4 (NKJV)

The Lord is on my side;
I will not fear.
What can man do to me?
—Psalm 118:6 (NKJV)

Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.
—Proverbs 3:5, 6 (NKJV)

Behold, God is my salvation,
I will trust and not be afraid;
‘For Yah, the Lord, is my strength and song;
He also has become my salvation.’ ”
—Isaiah 12:2 (NKJV)

Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.
—Hebrews 13:8 (NKJV)