At 20 months (will I ever stop noting everything from the start of widowhood?) I found that I was not in a good place in so many ways. So I blocked out a 2 week "stay-cation" – and I'm just about half-way through.
It’s been a huge time of refreshment for me, and a big part of that is letting God show me how to be busy—busy HIS way instead of my way. I am finding that each day I feel happier, and physically I feel better. I've taken drives, napped, gone to bed early, met friends for lunch, read books, shopped for fun things, watched some movies on TV, spent time searching the scriptures on a couple of topics, cried over things, and I’ve done some praying about some things that have bothered me of late. Because I’ve relaxed and let God lead, I’ve been able to make a very freeing decision.
Not every widow has the luxury of a 2 week time off, but I do believe that we (and that means anyone who is reading this) need to give ourselves times of rest—and I think that can be a hard thing to do.
If you’re a widow who is struggling, I urge you to set aside a few days for yourself. Spend time with God in prayer and reading His Word. Do fun things. Cry if you need to do so. No household chores, no errands, stay away from texting, boring holes in your every present cell phone, chasing Pokemon’s, or whatever else takes up your time, and let go for 48 hours. At the very least, give yourself 24 hours. Take time to diligently seek the Lord, for only in Him will you find the comfort and strength that you need.
“But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.”—Hebrews 11:6 (NKJV)